Relationships are notoriously difficult, especially the living together with someone for the first time kind. When you’re both kinda lazy and messy, it’s even more difficult to keep your home clean. It’s hard to see your apartment and not want to have guests over. Especially if it’s because of a butt to seating ratio. It makes you a little crazy thinking there’s nothing you can do to fix the problem because nagging your cohabitant will just end up with major push-back and probably more messes.
BUT, the tip I have for anyone worried about this type of situation is: choose your battles wisely, my dear. Do you love this person more than you hate the mess? Even clean-freak Monica Gellar from Friends was able to make it work. Of course, her favorite thing in life was cleaning, while her worst nightmare was someone messing up the work she’d just done. If you can just suck it up and clean up after your person, do so; if not, have a conversation about it.
Hiring a cleaning service is probably a favorable choice for us. I’m getting to the point where it might just be the ticket. It’s so expensive to live in San Francisco that I see no reason why I shouldn’t enjoy being in my apartment and if you don’t think an extra $100 a month isn’t worth that, you’re sadly mistaken. I’m not a very busy person, but I think that having someone else do a thorough cleaning once or twice a month might be beneficial for people like us. Just so that we get used to living in a clean spot. Then it’s all about maintenance, right?
A few other things that may be beneficial for us are some extra storage in certain places. A coat rack in the hallway and maybe a storage bench to throw my blankets in, since draping them on the couch seems to invite us to throw our clothes on the couch at the end of the day.
Some cute options I found on Amazon, with my affiliate link:
I am desperate for more to do at work, a way to stay motivated. I can’t figure out why I didn’t get the one thing I asked my previous manager for: more tasks. A way to make it worthwhile to him to have me at the restaurant, being paid. I’m bored out of my mind, so bored I’m writing at work. There’s nobody to seat at a table, there are three managers and nothing to do. So I’m writing and looking for things to clean. I want to stay motivated while I’m working here.
I’m thankful for both of my jobs, I’ve learned so much from working as a host at the front door of an extremely popular supper club and jazz bar. I have become more organized and thoughtful about planning the evening. On a busy night, I’m always super motivated and I can keep moving the whole time. I’m in charge of a lot of people’s experience: both our guests’ and my coworkers’ nights are determined by how well I do my part.
I love that feeling of being necessary to the overall flow of the night. I’ve found something I’m good at and want to continue furthering my career in this path. I want to be a server and then a manager in a restaurant. I also still want to work in a restaurant’s marketing/ public relations function. I’m motivated to find a job where I fit in with the team like I do at my current two jobs, with management that is similar to my newer job.
I did the thing. I asked to be trained as a server. I said, “You know how I’ve been taking care of tables upstairs when all the other servers move downstairs or go home? Is it a possibility for me to be officially trained as a server?” I was caught off guard when my manager looked surprised at my proposition and said he didn’t realize I wanted to serve, but that we could definitely talk about it. So…Yay me? At least I asked… So, I’m studying with this book to keep motivated: